I remember that some people saying if you wanna get marry you have to well prepare, you have to prepare everything first, you have to have money, apartment, job…etc. But today I have some different thought which base on what I heard and my previous experience.
In long time ago, I just dated with a girl in my fresh year. By that time, I dunno why I just being with her, several weeks later she said we should get marry, and I think is that some kind of joke; well what she mean is she is going to find some “digital marry site”, and pretend to get marry. It was funny, and it was dumb, We were so good together, we shared our things, memory and life. But we are eventually broke up two and half years after. Well I think if that is easy to say marry me, but most people is hard to keep the word of what they said.
Few months ago, I keep hearing friends surround me to tell me that they are getting marry or they are engaging; so I will ask, do you have a apartment? do you have a good salary to feed the whole family? The answers seem is not what I was thinking, all of them said no, they don’t have apartment, they don’t have good salary or some was unemployed by that time. I was so surprise indeed, but when I went to some park, I keep seeing a lot of young couple are marry and having baby, and I think most of them is not “on the top of the world”, and their life just began.
I must saying that most young couple getting marry is not because they have good salary and stable life, beside I think it is the moment they created to make the man or woman to say yes. That moment is so important to couple, when the time pass I don’t there is any chance to get it back again. If that moment is come, they won’t think any other things i.e. money, apartment, family….etc. The yes means, I just want to stay with you forever.
So I think when couple say “we have to plan, we have to wait 3,6,9 years” , that might means “oh, I still looking for others, you are not good enough, I need to have several years to let myself to find a better one, if I couldn’t I will be with you”, pretty sad huh?


